HOW TO JOURNAL – 8 Ways to Journal more Effectively - June 2019
Journaling is one of my favourite self-mastery tools EVER!
How I began journaling years ago… I started writing in a pretty little notebook that I had been gifted. At the time I didn’t know how powerful this ACTION was until the time I wanted to move from my flat. I had a list of requirements about what I wanted but didn’t know where it would be, how I would afford it and HOW it was going to happen! What I did know was that I needed to be clear about what I was manifesting, so I said to my boyfriend at the time (now finance) let’s go for coffee and I’m going to write down ‘what we want’ we sat outside in the spring sunshine at a café in Winchester, that was April 2013… I took out my little notebook that I still keep and wrote down what we wanted, just like telling a story about my new house and how we were going to feel. I didn’t worry about the neatness, spellings, how it sounded. It just felt important to write. September 2013 a friend said they were putting their house on the market and wondered if we were interested! Lets just say we moved, AND we have moved again since! So many more miracles have happened since then… and that’s WHY I wanted to share with you the MAGIC of journaling that I am always recommending to clients.
8 Ways to Journal more Effectively
1. Choose a beautiful journal something that makes you want to write in it! You could be drawn to a colour that gives you inspiration, a journal that has a positive message written on the front or something luxurious such as a leather journal. You will know when you see it.
2. Get writing! Don’t be concerned about the ‘how’. There is a point to this. If you don’t put pen to paper you will never get started. Just begin and keep going, the more you allow yourself to write, you will surprise yourself. It is a great way to gain insights and let go of baggage.
3. Find Time to Journal Find a time in the day that suits you, make that time to get creative. There are times in the day that I just need my journal to hand, so that I can write down any ideas, reminders, goals that are important. Create a space that will help you FOCUS. Find a space in the day that suit you… it could be first thing in the morning with your cup of coffee, maybe before you go to bed at night.
4. Letting Go - Two very important words! We can hold on to so much and part of letting go is to dump and clear out anything that’s bothering you or on your mind, no matter how trivial or familiar these things seem. It will help you feel lighter in your body.
5. Asking for help - Yes when we commit to asking for help onto paper, this is very powerful… have faith that the answers will come. You will start to get insights or write about things you are processing.
6. Ask questions in your journal - Write a question, for example ‘How can I move forward in this situation?’ or ‘What can I learn from this?’ and trust that the answer will come. You will be surprised at how powerful this is… just be open to what comes.
7. Keeping your journal private - This is just for you so make sure you keep it safe and secure.
8. Issues that come up - This is perfectly normal and part of your healing, anything that comes up is there for a reason and needs to be processed. Giving yourself time to listen and process whatever is going on, you are creating the opportunity for it to be cleared from your mind. Whatever emotions you are feeling, get them down on paper, just scribble away that anger, hurt, disappointment and release it onto paper. Notice how much better you feel afterwards.
Embrace Your New Habit
Things happen in your brain when you commit words to paper, those ideas that come into your mind could be very useful information and if we don’t put pen to paper those ideas could just filter away. Journaling helps to strengthen neural pathways, giving the brain time for reflection and helps with decision-making. I love to journal my goals and the action I am taking towards them, because it makes them happen. DOING this ACTION takes you towards what you DO want. Journaling can help people cope better with anxiety and stressful events, help you gain CLARITY that brings a sense of calm and control in your life. I find that journaling really helps to quiet the mind and logging on paper what is important helps you FOCUS more on what you want in your life.
Journaling connects us to our INNER POWER and WISDOM. When we are CONNECTED to ourselves, we know what we need TO DO to create the change we desire. So now you have some idea of HOW to make this tool work for you and to journal more effectively.
If you are struggling to let go of issues that come up, I am here to help and support you through your journey of change.
I run Journaling workshops. Message me and let me know how you are getting on with your journaling experience... I would love to hear from you!
Finding Your Purpose - May 2019
It was the summer of 2004; I sat at my desk in an office arriving bang on 9am, not a minute earlier. The sun was shining and here I was stuck sat in an office. A pile of post was put on to my desk, I remember looking at this pile of post thinking 'what am I doing with my life?' I was a Mum taking care of two young boys relying on me to be everything. I’m not going to lie, it was hard but I loved having my children and my intention was to be the best Mum I could be. However I was very unhappy in my work, but it was all I new and back then I was hiding behind a mask because I didn’t like myself and never felt good enough.
That day I received in the post a random prospectus from Eastleigh College, I had a flick through and Holistic Therapies jumped out at me. Having never had the luxury of having treatments, I didn’t know anything about it BUT what I did know was that it was a calling. I ended up carrying this prospectus around with me for 2 weeks, wondering HOW I was going to be able to CHANGE my life with no money available, already a very limiting belief.
What I did know was that I had a fire in my belly that was telling me to DO something to create change so I did. I took ACTION, to make my idea a reality.
I am now living the life that I have manifested through finding my PURPOSE, because I found the COURAGE to step out of my COMFORT ZONE.
Feeling a sense of achievement... I have worked hard on getting out of a place of fear and just jumping on my board. It has taken focus and determination to get there but I new what I wanted to achieve and I’ve got there... Raphael is now 20 kilos and when he moves on the board I have to be ready for any sudden movements. My Springer of course loves to move up and down the board, he’s busy but so much fun. I’ve really worked on facing the fear of falling in... especially in the freezing cold weather 🥶it could have been a disaster today, however the worst that could have happened would be getting wet and cold... actually it was so worth it and I didn’t fall in. I encourage you to STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE... taking small steps each time you do will widen your thoughts and beliefs about what you’re capable of doing. So I encourage you to set a goal that you want to achieve, make it happen 🙌🏼 you can DO IT!
Feeling Lost and Alone? How to connect with yourself again
Feeling lost, lonely, sad and stuck? Desperate to get away from an unfulfilling life that has no purpose; this is what I hear a lot from potential clients. As we know, life has its ups and downs and can just feel too much to deal with at times. Overwhelm and struggles become all to familiar and there has to be a way out.
What do we do?
Often closing ourselves down and shutting ourselves off to not feel because it feels too painful to connect with how we are really feeling. Our minds are very clever as we are wired to move away from pain however this leaves us with a deep sense of feeling lost and alone.
How do I move forward?
Most of us know what we don’t want, but focusing on this just gives us the ‘same old’ life and feelings. When I ask clients “what do you want?” they often say to feel content and at peace and often not able to even contemplate anything else. Once we start working together, the feedback is that clients are amazed at what can come out of a session working with me. Enabling them to get clarity, which creates positive change towards connecting not only with yourself with others too.
Being clear about where you are now and what you want, this is a great exercise that you can do…
Take a piece of A4 paper and draw a circle in the middle, in the centre write ‘ME NOW’, then put lines from that circle... then put down all your negative thoughts. Then tear up that piece of paper and set an intention to let that all go.
THEN take another piece of paper same layout… in the middle write ‘MY FUTURE'. Then write down all your desires, about what you want, how you want to feel, relationship, career…
How are you feeling now? Are you starting to connect with yourself? Any ideas you have, write them down and make an action plan as to how you are going to move forward.
FEAR OF HEIGHTS
Went to a party last night on the 18th Floor... now I have to say I didn't think too much about this. It made me realise that I was CURED of that PANIC you can feel rising when YOU know you are going into a situation that your MIND is telling you it's dangerous.
I was fascinated by what I could see and practically hanging out of the window, two sides of the room were all glass!
Back in 2013 when broke my foot then had a slipped disk/tear and chronic sciatica, the PAIN was unbearable. After recovering I was left with FEAR and couldn't go down an escalator, PANIC would rise and I used to either cling onto my fiancé or go in a lift. It wasn't ideal, being the sort of person who finds a way to get through a situation.... I needed HELP, this FEAR was IMPACTING on my LIFE.
Whilst on a training course, I volunteered to be a subject and went through an NLP technique process. UNDERSTANDING what is driving the FEAR is key to removing BLOCKS, for me it was lack of CONTROL.
I was cured, yesterday was a GREAT reminder that the PANIC was over. When I approach and get on an ESCALATOR, it's EASY and COMFORTABLE, no longer using up unnecessary WORRY and CONCERNs of What ifs...
HALLOWEEN & SPIDERS
It’s Halloween, which means that the fake spiders and their webs are everywhere in the supermarkets, shops, in peoples homes. Not only fake spiders but also real spiders can appear in the house, no matter how big or small can be hugely terrifying. It’s estimated that in Western societies, as many as 55 per cent of women and 18 per cent of men feel some degree of arachnophobia. In the UK it’s the most common phobia. People usually manage their phobia on a day-to-day basis and only seek help when it prevents them from doing something they want to do.
As a child we learn about fears from our parents, as they teach us (consciously and unconsciously) how to live and relate to the world around us. You might have seen your parent being frightened of a spider this message would have hardwired to your brain telling you there is a threat and can harm you too. When you see a spider that message is reinforced, so the fear compounds and makes it worse.
There is no need to carry on this fear, ours minds are very cleaver, and our subconscious mind will know when and why this started. I can help you conquer your fear of spiders with a session of Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy, to rewire your mind.